The Baptism day 24th Nov 2014

Baptism leaves a permanent mark on our soul. Baptism doesn't promise us a smooth life but it promises you strength and courage and determination in facing your life challenges. With the mark, we are able to further grow our spirit with the love from our Almighty Father. 

On 24th Nov 2014, Baby Arthur and I was baptised under Catholic Church. We are truly blessed being. I suppose to be baptised next year then Baby Arthur's turn but with Lord special treatment, we baptised earlier due to the huge test that I had went through few months ago. I was baptised under Methodist Church about 9 years ago. Reason why I converted Ill share with you personally if your interested to know (another long story) haha. But I can tell you, everything been arranged by God. 

It was an almost 2 hours mass . Of course Baby Arthur was unhappy and got frustuated but he didn't cry at all. Amen. He always brings surprises to us ( though I still think he needa work harder on his temper because I have too much expectation hahaha) 

My Aunty Josephine is my godmother. Guess what. She named my "Carol" when I was born and now she is my godmother. And yes I got Carol as my baptism name and so did Baby Arthur as Arthur. Praise the Lord. 

I believe in Almight God because me and Baby Arthur was a real testimonials. Doctors couldn't explain why but God saved our life. When I started to really pray for my life, I found Mr. Right then I prayed for child to expand our family then I pregnant. 

Some might ask then why I had the disaster? Well, you could say I carried Jesus's cross for other or a testimonial to show God's existence.  There is no direct answer but somehow we know it. 

Baby Arthur's grandmother ( father side) and GuGu flew all the way from Brunei to attend our ceremony. Appreciate it. Many ask wheres my parents? Well my mom is having her menopause now and my dad had coughing plus they are not Christian so I " let them go" hahaha. But still appreciate their care and love to our family. 

Father Chua from BDC Kuching was our priest in charge. He is such an amazing being. Again we are blessed to have him to support the mass. Arthur enjoyed himself so much when he was baptised. Beautiful!!Arthur's godfather is my brother in law but due to last min information we had Gerald as his proxy godfather. 

We had our marriage blessing in the church too. We did ours at the Cove with pastor and Praise the Lord we have our second marriage blessing under RC.  We been given second life and now the second marriage blessings. Lord loves us so much that He gave us another opportunity to restart our life. 

Beside both our family members, I have awesome friends from Family Rosary Group. Theres so much to write about them because this special prayer group changed my life!! I will blog about that in details next time. I am sooo happy to be part of their group. 

My OOTD from my beloved sister. Love dresses with long sleeve and cover my knees because my husband likes it hahaha

And tata, introduce you Arthur's proxy godfather's wife, Linda. Shes the leader of our legion of Mary's group. She is such a sweet lady and she loves Arthur so much. When you see her smile towards Arthur, you can tell theres so much love in it. 

Sister Tiong... With out her, all these will never happen. This is a beautiful and God's arranged story with her. My mother met her in Normah hospital when I was super ill ( I totally forgot). She prayed over me and Arthur twice then twice in ICU. Then after that baby Arthur was delivered safely. After that she visited us and showered me with lots of love. She allows me to choose the religious I want and never confuse me. She taught me whats real moral and God's will. Sister Tiong, you also one of the amazing person who changed so much of me for the past few months. You are definitely sender from God . You are the 80% reason I converted to a Catholic. May Lord bless your health and your wisdom so that you can keep sharing God's word.

Ya and lastly this is our group photo at BDC Kuching. I can feel the super spirit here and I gona miss this place so much.

Vero (Vegetarian Hero)

I am a vegetarian since university time but due to temptation I on and off till year 2012 I became a full vegetarian. I was committed during university time because I was touched by a dog who saved a human life during Sze Chuan Earthquake. I told myself why would I eat animals when they have feelings like us. by fate, I joined Tzu Chi Vero campaign in oct year 2012 and  I was touched totally by the concept in helping world by becoming a vero. How ? Well you can just google and theres tons of advantages of becoming a vero and why we should. Apparently most of us aware of it but we just dun have the commitment. 

Guess what!! Well this is all personal view. After I became a full time vero, I found the love of my life ( not sure if its true or not hahaha) plus a daily prayer for the right man . Then easily I got pregnant and our first born was a son. Of course it also happened to non vegetarian. I am just trying to share my vegetarian journey hehe. Theres actually so much to share as I faced difficulties too.I will blog about that next time. 

Unfortunately I got ill ( tho some might say well u vero why got sick again. After attending a course, i realised that even blessed person face all challenges due to generation sin or a test from God). However, when I was super ill, my brother and sister encouraged so many of my friends to be vegetarian as a form of praying for me. Believe it or not, with this form of prayer and many prayers from my beloved ones, someone that been diagnosed without cure survived. not only me but also my son. Its all because of the blessings. 

Here I would like to show my greatest appreciation to friends and families who be vegetarian even for a day to pray for me. I pray for you always from our Father so that blessings will go to you all too. You guys know who you are. My siblings sent me a list and i was really touched. Sorry that I didn't manage to say thank you in person but really its the biggest blessings I have in my life. 

Early year 2014, I wrote in my timetable that this year I hope at least 50 person eat vegetarian because of me and at least 100 of person heard my stories and how committed I am in becoming a vegetarian. And yes!! It all happened. Amazing isnt it. 

Again my dearest friends and families, I would not forgot what you had done to me and I sincerely wish to the best. 

Because of what you guys showed me, i will keep helping more people and show the best I can for needies. 

Does Baby Sleep Through the night

Babies look the cutest when they are sleeping. I am sure most mummies agree that including me definitely. I am a lucky mummy because my baby SLEPT  through the night since month 3 after discharged from the hospital. If you ask how I train my baby, i duno. Maybe I just too tired or sleepy to entertain him when he wan attention then slowly he dun wana disturb me till 6am . 

When I been asked how many times Arthur wake up at night, I said nope. But then its actually inaccurate. No babies sleep through the night. All babies wake up but mostly can sleep back. however if they couldn't they will cry for attention. I got this information from a doctor who I forgot who he is hehe. 

                                      I found the below table from a website. Tried to centralised it but duno how.

Age	Nighttime Sleep	Daytime Sleep *	Total Sleep
1 month	8	8 (inconsistent)	16
3 months	10	5 (3)	15
6 months	11	3 1/4 (2)	14 1/4
9 months	11	3 (2)	14
12 months	11 1/4	2 1/2 (2)	13 3/4
18 months	11 1/4	2 1/4 (1)	13 1/2
2 years	11	2 (1)	13
3 years	10 1/2	1 1/2 (1)	12
*Note: number of naps in parentheses

Anyway, the message that I wana deliver is, T.T I have to say goodby to my sleepthrough night because already 3 days arthur woke up at 2am . i duno why and i tried everything but cant help. 

Btw I wrote the above post yesterday and yay last night he didnt wake me up. Hope baby Arthur u hv a good and blissful night. hehehe so that mummy also sleep nice at night. 

我的小德德

我们家里人口不多。就我们三个兄弟姐妹。所以妹妹怀第一胎时我们很紧张。也很兴奋。也担心。一听到妹妹说哪里不舒服我就紧张了。我也不大清楚我有多担心因为我们一点经验也没有。后来也因为我怀孕很情绪话，我看到妹妹挤奶给小德德时，我很心疼我妹妹。感觉很恐怖。 可是现在我的小侄子已经一岁了。多厉害哦
以后德德一定是说这个阿姨没有心思 的。没有一个月一个月的照片。也是哈哈我整理照片后竟然发现德德以前的相片都不见了。气死我了。可是这个孩子是那么的可爱。以前我们小菩萨小菩萨的叫，结果真的长得像菩萨。
这为我们家中的第一个素宝宝。多自豪啊。这个孩子啊，看到他就起欢喜心。结果感恩感恩我家的宝宝也长德像他呵呵

我喜欢德德的蘑菇头哈哈可爱极了哈哈。以后姨姨帮你减头发

还记得他要开始坐的时候。现在都要走了。好快哦

德德 很好动 的。可是座在桶里却是那么的乖巧。 哈哈

德德穿什么都可爱的呵呵。爱呆了

长大了。青桶没效了。大的还好哈哈。他还拍手呢

还记得德德刚出生。那么的小。现在已经这么的大了。感恩祝福

所以说我妹妹厉害。只喂母乳没有奶份。孩子一直都是素宝宝。现在也是那么的被祝福。

原来我只有和德德两张相片。我必须在回去前多拍一点呵呵

孩子虽然是个体可是身为父母的我们是有权利给他们最好的环境。不是富裕的而是健康，开心的。我相信这孩子的前途无限好。是可照的。上人的挡子也由你扛。我门一起努力哦

A Preemie Milestones

Having a baby with the man of your life is one of the happiest news in the world. Awaiting for the arrival of your baby is truly exciting. However , when your baby is born premature, things change (Still thankful that my baby is normal and healthy). Having a premature is no longer an extraordinary thing nowadays. I also have no idea why this happen. For my case, its because baby Arthur couldn't stand the stresses inside my womb so he decided to come out in order to save my and his life. 

I never encounter any preemie so I had no idea how to take care of one. I didn't even do any research because I totally had no idea where to start. What I can do was leave it to God and learn from the nurses in Sarawak General Hospital. I had wrong expectation for a newborn preemie. I asked myself, What!! How come my baby is not cute at all!!! I was wrong in a way that he suppose to be in mummy's womb. He was born in his 29 weeks. Thats quite early to me and he had infection too. 

Age : new born 

He totally had no idea whats going on except been poked on hands and head. Im sure he was filled with fear because he wasn't been held and been talked. Tony and I couldn't hold and hug him except his tiny little fingers. I was on my wheel chair and his incubator was way too high for me to touch him. 

Age : one month 18/4/14

We realised that his head shape was really sharp. We were quite concerned about the shape because he wont be looking good in future. Therefore everytime we visited him, Tony ll make sure we put towel on the other side of his head so that he dun sleep one side only.

                                                               Age :  two month 11/5/14

I was with baby Arthur in the hospital for rooming in provided by GH. It was really scary experience to me because he felt so insecure and he cried all the time. I had to breastfeed him for about 1 1/2 hour every few hours and he wouldn't not sleep till 2am. He had sleepless time. I didn't know why. Then I know that it was because he had so much fear moving from NICU to the new ward. Nurses told me he must be super clingy but everyone was wrong. He was just in fear. 

                                                              Age :  two months  24/5/14
                                             Corrected Age :  new born
Hes home finally. This suppose to be his due date . So he is actually 1 day old hehe. He woke up every few hours . I was really tiring because I never tried waking up every 2 hours at night. I didnt know much about him yet so what I can do was make sure I changed his diapers, bathed him and fed him.

                                                           Age :  two months  24/5/14

Age : two months 1/6/14

                                  Age : three months 15/6/14

Corrected Age :  one month old

He didn't smile till Nicole came over and made him smiled. I was surprised. I was quite worried about his progress as he dun smile at all. I was wondering if he was upset all the time. I forgot that he was actually one month old and before that his peacefulness been disturbed. 

       Age : three months 29/6/14

                     Age : four  months 7/7/14

Corrected Age :  two months old

He actually turned with help and we were like wowo amazing kid then we realised that it wasn't the proper way. Everything will happen when the time is ready. So we no longer assist him to turn. He made stretching noises most of the time. Everyone said no stretch no grown. Then I understand he was not feeling good. That's why he had the sound. Arthur had constipation problem because he is on formula milk. I duno how to deal with that. I let him had probiotic and also Frisolac Comfot then ended up diarrhea. It was really headache for not knowing how to cure him. 

     Age : four months 10/7/14

Age : four months 17/7/14

                   Age : five months 4/8/14

Corrected Age :  three months old

Every month there will be a certain period of time when he will struggle and didn't wan to drink milk. He was actually hungry but he just dun wana drink. Everytime u put milk bottle into his mouth then he screamed and struggled like hell. Only recently I been told that he was having colic pain. There is no reason for this baby sickness and it happens on particular time. We were silly enough to think he was shocked lol . At this month, he finally smiled. I stimulated him alot by teasing him and talking to him and making lots of funny voices. One day midnite finally he smiled to me. I was really thankful. 

 Age : five months 17/8/14

 Age : five months 19/8/14

 Age : six months 15/9/14

Corrected Age :  four months old

Amazing month. Arthur learned to turn a bit and he smiled everytime he woke up from his nap. He is a super happy boy. I love his smile. 

 Age : seven months 13/10/14

Corrected Age :  five months old

Arthur looks more and more define. Or you could say look like a girl. Its ok . as long as he is happy and healthy. He turns most of the time and I dun feel troublesome at all because turning is a blessing to me. i was so worried about his motor skill. Look like it all fine. 

 Age : seven months 15/10/14

Age : eight  months 2/11/14

Corrected Age :  six months old

Arthur is getting busier as I bring him often nowadays. Only during his free time ( when hes awake from his nap, after 2 hours we must go home). He smiles more and more and hes more alert now. He used to caugh easily but now seem better. finger cross his immune system is geeting better and better. 

Age : eight months 9/11/14

Age : eight months 11/11/14

Corrected Age :  six months old

Hi my preemie. You are the special one and I believe we will have more miracles baby. This month Arthur can turn so much and he is trying to sit up. U can tell he is growing up. Thanks Lord for this wonderful baby. I am really thankful for all his milestones. Definitely slowly than the same age babies but its okay. You are definitely doing super.. 

To all preemie mothers: We gather information from adults, web and friends. At the end of the say, we mother know the best what our children want. Things that we learn are only guidelines. Your child is unique. We might make comparison but remember every child is the only one. We take advises but we choose the best to our kids. Sometimes the advises might be cruel but be confident and remember how wonderful we are as a mother.